Self-regulation helps us focus on a task, achieve long-term goals, develop healthy habits, and get along well with others. A person with good emotional self-regulation is able to control their emotions. They resist impulsive feelings. According to psychologists, there are two main forms of this self-regulation. That is, behavioral-self-regulation and emotional-self-regulation.
ØSELF
MOTIVATION
Self-motivation
encourages us to continue toward a goal even when it feels challenging. That
is, how we find our ability to do what needs to be done without being
influenced by other people or circumstances. There are mainly two types of
motivators in our life. That is, intrinsic motivation and extrinsic motivation.
Intrinsic motivators provide the motivation to do the things we want to do.
Extrinsic motivation or extrinsic motivators are about rewards or punishments.
Accordingly, self-motivation depends on our own desires and personal rewards.
ØSOCIAL
AWARENESS
Another
skill to develop emotional intelligence is social awareness. It means that we
have awareness and understanding of the world around us. Social awareness, in
relation to emotional intelligence, is defined as our ability to accurately
understand and empathize with other people's emotions.
ØSOCIAL
SKILLS
Social
skills are used to communicate with others daily in a variety of ways including
verbal, nonverbal, written, and visual. Social skills are also referred to as
“interpersonal” or “soft skills.” Verbal skills involve the spoken language,
while nonverbal communication includes body language, facial expressions, and
eye contact. Any time we interact with another person, we’re using social
skills in some way.
Self-awareness
is the ability to observe our own thoughts and feelings. Anyone should actively
seek to understand themselves. Because only when one understands where one is
lacking, can he or she focus his or her efforts on what needs to be improved. A
number of factors are important to this self-awareness.
oBeing very deeply aware of our emotions.
oThe ability to distinguish our emotions
from the emotions of others.
oAwareness of our beliefs and desires.
oWhat are our strengths? What are our
weaknesses? Identifying
Currently,
the artist named 'Mahendra Sri Kantha Perera' can be introduced as the most
talented theater artist of Sri Lanka, known as 'Dear Disapamok'. Also, he can
be called as a character who is loved and respected by everyone, young and old,
in Sri Lanka. He was born on August 17, 1956, in the area of Mt. Sri Lanka as
the youngest of the family. He first studied at Highlands College, Nugegoda.
Later, he went to Vidyakara Vidyalaya, Maharagama and Thurston College,
Colombo.
Mahendra
Sri Kanta Perera's contribution to the media industry in Sri Lanka can be
recognized through his cinematography, stage play and television industry.
Mahendra Perera, a talented actor, is a genius actor living in Sri Lanka. His
contribution to cinema and this entire media industry for more than two decades
is immense. He has contributed to more than eighty-four films. Mahendra Perera
is a professional actor, art director and assistant director who dedicated his
life to the media industry. He has appeared in several stage plays including ‘Eth
Ahimi Jeevita’, ‘Sargeant Nallathambi’. His television debut was through
'Tharadevi'. Since then, he has acted in memorable telenovelas such as ‘White
and Black’, ‘Niyan Ukussa’, ‘Dhavala Rathriya’, Diyaketa Pahana’, ‘Handawila
Sakmana’ and ‘Golu thaththa’.
However,
his most notable medium is cinema. He continued to be one of the most
influential film actors in Sinhala cinema. Dominated in many blockbuster movies
like ‘Sihina Deshayen’, ‘Aswesuma’, ‘Bahubuthayo’, ‘Sudu-Asu’, ‘Arumosam Vehi’,
‘Mille Soyaa’, ‘No Address’ and ‘Gindari’. Apart from this, he also worked as
the art director of the films 'Juliet's Role' and 'Papuru Valalu'. All these
roles of his are presented through media to entertain the people. But,
according to my opinion, the greatest contribution he has made to the Sri
Lankan media industry is the ‘Mahendra Perera Actors Studio’ which he runs.
Because of that, today the character of Mahendra Perera is known as 'Dear
Disapamok'. Mahendra Sri Kanta Perera received several national awards.
Best
Art Director25th
Sarasaviya Awards 1998 – ‘Sihina Deshayen’ , 25thOCIC Award
Ceremony 1999 – ‘Julietge Boomikawa’ , 26thOCIC Award Ceremony 2002 – ‘Pawru Walalu’, 13th
Presidential Award 2000 – ‘Pawru Walalu’
Best
Performance Awards 4th Vicharaka Sammana Ulela 1998, 5th
Vicharaka Sammana Ulela 2000 – ‘Sanda Dadayama’, 27th Sarasaviya
Award 2000 – ‘Aswesuma’, 27th OCIC Award Ceremony 2002 – ‘Saroja’
Best
Supporting Actor 30th Sarasaviya Awards 2005 –
‘Randiya Dahara’, 2nd Hiru Golden Film Awards 2016 – ‘Address na’, 7th
Derana Film Awards 2019
Best
Actor 31st Sarasaviya Awards 2006 – ‘Sudu
Kalu Saha Alu’
Best
Comedy Actor 4th Derana Film Awards 2016 –
‘Gindari (Bahubutayo 2)
"Emotional
intelligence is the ability to observe one's own and other people's emotions,
distinguish between different emotions and label them appropriately, and use
emotional information to guide thinking and behavior."
- Peter Salovey and John Mayer –
Accordingly,
emotional intelligence is the ability to perceive, use, understand, manage, and
manipulate emotions. People with high emotional intelligence can recognize
their own emotions and the emotions of others. The term emotional intelligence
was created by two researchers, Peter Salovey and John Mayer in their article
“Emotional Intelligence” in the journal Imagination, Cognition, and Personality
in 1990. It was later popularized by Dan Goleman in his 1995 book Emotional
Intelligence.
When
emotions run high, they change the way our brains work, diminishing our
cognitive abilities, decision-making power, and even interpersonal skills.
Understanding and managing our emotions and the emotions of others helps us be
more successful in both our personal and professional lives.There,
the concept of emotional intelligence is very important.
At
a personal level, emotional intelligence helps us:
·Have uncomfortable conversations without
hurting feelings.
·Manage
our emotions when stressed or feeling overwhelmed.
·Improve
relationships with the people we care about