SKILLS OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE.

 

 Ø SELF REGULATION

      Self-regulation helps us focus on a task, achieve long-term goals, develop healthy habits, and get along well with others. A person with good emotional self-regulation is able to control their emotions. They resist impulsive feelings. According to psychologists, there are two main forms of this self-regulation. That is, behavioral-self-regulation and emotional-self-regulation.

    Ø SELF MOTIVATION

Self-motivation encourages us to continue toward a goal even when it feels challenging. That is, how we find our ability to do what needs to be done without being influenced by other people or circumstances. There are mainly two types of motivators in our life. That is, intrinsic motivation and extrinsic motivation. Intrinsic motivators provide the motivation to do the things we want to do. Extrinsic motivation or extrinsic motivators are about rewards or punishments. Accordingly, self-motivation depends on our own desires and personal rewards.

Ø SOCIAL AWARENESS

Another skill to develop emotional intelligence is social awareness. It means that we have awareness and understanding of the world around us. Social awareness, in relation to emotional intelligence, is defined as our ability to accurately understand and empathize with other people's emotions.

Ø SOCIAL SKILLS

Social skills are used to communicate with others daily in a variety of ways including verbal, nonverbal, written, and visual. Social skills are also referred to as “interpersonal” or “soft skills.” Verbal skills involve the spoken language, while nonverbal communication includes body language, facial expressions, and eye contact. Any time we interact with another person, we’re using social skills in some way.

 Ø SELF AWARENESS

Self-awareness is the ability to observe our own thoughts and feelings. Anyone should actively seek to understand themselves. Because only when one understands where one is lacking, can he or she focus his or her efforts on what needs to be improved. A number of factors are important to this self-awareness.

o   Being very deeply aware of our emotions.

o   The ability to distinguish our emotions from the emotions of others.

o   Awareness of our beliefs and desires.

o   What are our strengths? What are our weaknesses? Identifying

o   Ability to communicate better.

o   Improving interpersonal relationships.

MAHENDRA SRI KANTA PERERA

 

MAHENDRA SRI KANTA PERERA.

Currently, the artist named 'Mahendra Sri Kantha Perera' can be introduced as the most talented theater artist of Sri Lanka, known as 'Dear Disapamok'. Also, he can be called as a character who is loved and respected by everyone, young and old, in Sri Lanka. He was born on August 17, 1956, in the area of ​​Mt. Sri Lanka as the youngest of the family. He first studied at Highlands College, Nugegoda. Later, he went to Vidyakara Vidyalaya, Maharagama and Thurston College, Colombo.

Mahendra Sri Kanta Perera's contribution to the media industry in Sri Lanka can be recognized through his cinematography, stage play and television industry. Mahendra Perera, a talented actor, is a genius actor living in Sri Lanka. His contribution to cinema and this entire media industry for more than two decades is immense. He has contributed to more than eighty-four films. Mahendra Perera is a professional actor, art director and assistant director who dedicated his life to the media industry. He has appeared in several stage plays including ‘Eth Ahimi Jeevita’, ‘Sargeant Nallathambi’. His television debut was through 'Tharadevi'. Since then, he has acted in memorable telenovelas such as ‘White and Black’, ‘Niyan Ukussa’, ‘Dhavala Rathriya’, Diyaketa Pahana’, ‘Handawila Sakmana’ and ‘Golu thaththa’.

However, his most notable medium is cinema. He continued to be one of the most influential film actors in Sinhala cinema. Dominated in many blockbuster movies like ‘Sihina Deshayen’, ‘Aswesuma’, ‘Bahubuthayo’, ‘Sudu-Asu’, ‘Arumosam Vehi’, ‘Mille Soyaa’, ‘No Address’ and ‘Gindari’. Apart from this, he also worked as the art director of the films 'Juliet's Role' and 'Papuru Valalu'. All these roles of his are presented through media to entertain the people. But, according to my opinion, the greatest contribution he has made to the Sri Lankan media industry is the ‘Mahendra Perera Actors Studio’ which he runs. Because of that, today the character of Mahendra Perera is known as 'Dear Disapamok'. Mahendra Sri Kanta Perera received several national awards.

Best Art Director    25^th Sarasaviya Awards 1998 – ‘Sihina Deshayen’ , 25^th OCIC Award Ceremony 1999 – ‘Julietge Boomikawa’ , 26^th  OCIC Award Ceremony 2002 – ‘Pawru Walalu’, 13^th Presidential Award 2000 – ‘Pawru Walalu’

Best Performance Awards  4^th Vicharaka Sammana Ulela 1998, 5^th Vicharaka Sammana Ulela 2000 – ‘Sanda Dadayama’, 27^th Sarasaviya Award 2000 – ‘Aswesuma’, 27^th OCIC Award Ceremony 2002 – ‘Saroja’

Best Supporting Actor  30^th Sarasaviya Awards 2005 – ‘Randiya Dahara’, 2^nd Hiru Golden Film Awards 2016 – ‘Address na’, 7^th Derana Film Awards 2019

Best Actor  31^st Sarasaviya Awards 2006 – ‘Sudu Kalu Saha Alu’

Best Comedy Actor  4^th Derana Film Awards 2016 – ‘Gindari (Bahubutayo 2)

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

 

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE.

"Emotional intelligence is the ability to observe one's own and other people's emotions, distinguish between different emotions and label them appropriately, and use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior."   

                                                                       - Peter Salovey and John Mayer –

Accordingly, emotional intelligence is the ability to perceive, use, understand, manage, and manipulate emotions. People with high emotional intelligence can recognize their own emotions and the emotions of others. The term emotional intelligence was created by two researchers, Peter Salovey and John Mayer in their article “Emotional Intelligence” in the journal Imagination, Cognition, and Personality in 1990. It was later popularized by Dan Goleman in his 1995 book Emotional Intelligence.

When emotions run high, they change the way our brains work, diminishing our cognitive abilities, decision-making power, and even interpersonal skills. Understanding and managing our emotions and the emotions of others helps us be more successful in both our personal and professional lives. There, the concept of emotional intelligence is very important.

At a personal level, emotional intelligence helps us:

·       Have uncomfortable conversations without hurting feelings.

·       Manage our emotions when stressed or feeling overwhelmed.

·       Improve relationships with the people we care about

At work, emotional intelligence can help us:

·       Resolve conflicts.

·       Coach and motivate others.

·       Create a culture of collaboration.

·       Build psychological safety within teams.